Letting Go

I've been talking to my piggy friend Lydia in New Zealand...and after pondering about it...i think she is gonna make a superb pyschologist!!! Gosh....u really can relate to me(yea i know u alwiz have)..but im just impressed with how you look at things nowaydays.Told you rite gonna steal your ideas....hehehe...So...here's something i got from her.

Is that what you call love? Not letting go after a relationship has ended only narrows down your definition of love as a feeling to own and possess. It is natural to want to be with the person you love because you want to share every part of your life with that person. But do you still want to share if all you can give now is guilt, frustration, burden, and tears of sadness? You do feel hopeless but you are not hopeless. And you know that. So what if the person you love no longer loves you or never loved you? It does change the way you should express your love, but it doesn’t change how you feel towards that person. So why force yourself not to love that person anymore when you know you can’t do it? As a matter of fact, if you can do it, it is not love to begin with. To love is not a decision that can be made. You said that you would only put that person before you and you would only want that person to be happy. But isn’t your crying and yearning reflects the opposite of that? In the end it’s all about you and what you want, and you hurt the person even more. Start to think once again with your brain and not your heart, and to feel once again with your heart and not your brain.
Love should be selfless and not selfish.
To love someone never means only when that person loves you too.
It means giving the person the freedom to love you in return.
It means having that person feeling happy being loved by you.
It means loving yourself.
And letting go means I love you.

So deep rite?? Yea i think its true but its really difficult to put into practice what a person preaches...:)

Meant to be??

Do you believe that IF things are meant to be, it would automatically fall into place? Sometimes i wonder if there is no God will all of this happen? HE see and hears everything even before we know it. In our everyday life He is there working in small ways which we tend to be ignorant about. Most of the time we take HIM for granted. We only feel that it is HIS will when something good happens to us or if it is according to our plan. What if it happens the other way round? Then would we still accept it as God's will? I believe that we go through trials and temptations because we will learn something from it and hopefully we won't do it again. It only makes us a better and stronger person. Although it is really really hard to say this when we are actually going through the troubles (rite???). Being in university for the past 3years has made me a much much stronger person. Before this i was filled with negativity(all the electrons were in my mind and body..hehe..:P). I used to worry about my future a LOT & to top that up i never thought that anything good would happen to me(pathetic rite??Or more like super -ve!). I used to wonder whether i would get into a reputable university(Well...here i am in UNITEN!), whether i would secure a good job.....whether i would ever find the right guy and get married(*wink wink*)...Haha..you may laugh about the last part but don't deny the fact that you are getting older each year and eventually you would want to settle down with someone you really love and can't live without(awwww...so sweeet)! Im pretty sure somewhere deep down in our not so tiny heart we have that longing or at least we have thought about it(rite phoebs??). It so sounds like i am preaching today...dunno why am i in a preaching mood.Hmmm....but i guess every worry we have. We just have to put it to Him in prayer and be specific(as nina always says!).Because you'll be amazed by being specific and of course by having faith...We will receive. Ask and it shall be given unto you! It may take time....but never deny the power of God!! Patience is a virtue....We may not know why its taking so long for something to happen but He has planned everything according to His perfect timing. AMEN!!

oklah...i got to go....kena pergi class...Will be updating soon...:)