Tuesday, May 29, 2007

Letting Go

I've been talking to my piggy friend Lydia in New Zealand...and after pondering about it...i think she is gonna make a superb pyschologist!!! Gosh....u really can relate to me(yea i know u alwiz have)..but im just impressed with how you look at things nowaydays.Told you rite gonna steal your ideas....hehehe...So...here's something i got from her.

Is that what you call love? Not letting go after a relationship has ended only narrows down your definition of love as a feeling to own and possess. It is natural to want to be with the person you love because you want to share every part of your life with that person. But do you still want to share if all you can give now is guilt, frustration, burden, and tears of sadness? You do feel hopeless but you are not hopeless. And you know that. So what if the person you love no longer loves you or never loved you? It does change the way you should express your love, but it doesn’t change how you feel towards that person. So why force yourself not to love that person anymore when you know you can’t do it? As a matter of fact, if you can do it, it is not love to begin with. To love is not a decision that can be made. You said that you would only put that person before you and you would only want that person to be happy. But isn’t your crying and yearning reflects the opposite of that? In the end it’s all about you and what you want, and you hurt the person even more. Start to think once again with your brain and not your heart, and to feel once again with your heart and not your brain.
Love should be selfless and not selfish.
To love someone never means only when that person loves you too.
It means giving the person the freedom to love you in return.
It means having that person feeling happy being loved by you.
It means loving yourself.
And letting go means I love you.

So deep rite?? Yea i think its true but its really difficult to put into practice what a person preaches...:)

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hey...Lydia is smart...what u wrote was great.

You CAN forget but u realize that YOU simply DON'T want to.

That's exactly what i felt.
But im proud to say that...now i've changed that...

Right now, I CAN and I HAVE!

Hugggggsssss..
Here for you always...thanks for always being there for me...

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Anonymous said...

wahhh, so deep.... i know its been writen months ago but i have to say this >> its not really difficult to put into practice.. it is one of the most difficult thing to put into practice (even killing a person is not tht difficult)...